We often cause ourselves pain by assuming we matter more to others than we actually do.
We often cause ourselves pain by assuming we matter more to others than we actually do.
This quote highlights the psychological tendency some people have to overestimate their significance in the lives of others. It suggests that we often project our own feelings and importance onto others, leading us to assume that they care about us or prioritize us more than they actually do. This assumption can result in emotional pain and disappointment when reality doesn't align with our expectations. By acknowledging that our importance may not be as central to others as we think, we can work towards healthier relationships and a more balanced perspective on our connections with others. Understanding this can help mitigate feelings of hurt and foster a more realistic and compassionate view of interpersonal dynamics.
Author: Harriet Lerner